What’s Up Wednesday: Carrying Grief, Walking in Faith

 This week has been heavy. Busyness, yes — but also grief. Yesterday marked the first heavenly birthday of my baby brother since his passing in February.

We visited his gravesite as a family. We released balloons surrounded by friends and loved ones. We laughed at videos, scrolled through old photos, and shed tears reading posts shared on Facebook. And through it all, my heart felt like it was carrying both celebration and sorrow at the same time.

Grief is complicated like that.

 Validating Grief

One of the things I’ve learned on this journey is that grief doesn’t follow a straight line. Some days I smile at the memories. Other days I cry uncontrollably, needing space from everyone and everything. And you know what? That’s okay.

Grief shows up differently for everyone — and we must give ourselves and others grace. If you’re grieving, it’s not about “getting over it,” it’s about learning to carry it.

 Faith, Therapy/Coaching & Support Systems

I believe in the power of faith, therapy/coaching, and community when it comes to coping with loss. Faith keeps me grounded in God’s promises. Therapy gives me tools to process the pain. And having a support system — people who let me be myself, even on my worst days — reminds me I’m not alone.

But sometimes, the best support is space. The freedom to sit in silence. To cry without explanation. To just be.

 The 9 Stages of Grief (RTT Style)

In my grief journal project, I talk about 9 stages of grief — because at Real Talk TYME, the clock is set to 9, and grief is more than just 5 stages.

Some of those stages I’ve been moving through this week include:

• Shock & Disbelief – Even months later, I still find myself saying, “I can’t believe he’s gone.”
• Reflection – Looking through photos, videos, and memories, replaying moments in my mind.
• Acceptance with Grace – Not that it doesn’t hurt, but acknowledging that he’s at peace now.

These stages remind me that grief is a journey, not a destination. It shifts. It flows. It changes with time.

 A Gentle Reminder

If you’re grieving, I want you to know: it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to lean on faith. It’s okay to seek therapy. It’s okay to need space. And it’s okay to give yourself grace when you’re not at your best.

Healing isn’t about rushing. It’s about honoring your feelings, one day at a time.

So tonight, I honor my brother. I honor the love we shared. And I honor the journey of grief that so many of us are walking together.

 Coach Mo | Real Talk TYME
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With Love, Discernment & Intention for 2025,Coach MO